How to help your children through separation and divorce

First of all, I want to reassure you – the end of your relationship or marriage itself isn’t necessarily going to have a negative effect on your children.

Your children may well recover from the breakup. However, their general well-being now and in the future does depend on your – and your ex’s – attitude, and your willingness and ability to compromise and solve problems.

Your decision to separate from your partner can even be of benefit to your children if your relationship is – or has been – peppered with endless rows, contempt and even abuse. Your children are more likely to have been affected by the conflict than they are by your separation and divorce.

Yes, I know that lots of studies have shown that divorce means dire outcomes for the children’s future. But what good does that do you in your situation right now? You’re likely to have gone way past the point that you can hang on for the sake of your kids.

 

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🚫ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP 🚫

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In some relationship the individual is being mentally damaging practices will be harsh in some cases, relatively few times each day, not regular. This individual will pull themselves back. They assume liability for the damage they’ve brought about. They will learn that what they say they will be defenseless and will change in a possibly bad way.

The relationship is an inventive experience. At the point when that individual is injurious their conciliatory sentiment implies something. Their statement of regret means something because their practices change.

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MONOGAMY

MONOGAMY: Monogamy is being exclusive to one person that you are currently with. being committed to that one person and that one person only. Monogamy can be complicated for every individual, you need to know that you are able to stay committed to the one relationship and not to anyone else.

HOOK UP: The possibility of the connect has spread past the bounds of school grounds and mixed whatever remains of the social world as another rendition of a conceivable one night stand that might prompt to whatever else. In hookup and one night stand culture, monogamy is not something that individuals can securely expect and should rather be arranged. Hookup culture dialect calls this a DTR – characterize the relationship talk – in which the general population who have been connecting arrange a move to genuine relationship status, which by and large infers sexual monogamy. The state of mind that monogamy is something you need to discuss, characterize, and concur upon implies that, for some individuals, monogamy is no longer the unchallenged, examine standard that it used to be. Regardless of whether these people get to be distinctly monogamous, polyandrous, or something else is less critical than the way that they have a decision they should effectively make.

SERIAL MONOGAMY:A standout among the most well-known decisions many individuals today make is serial monogamy, implying that they collaborate with just a single individual at any given moment, framing one relationship and saying a final farewell to that individual before joining forces again with someone else. The limits between the finish of one relationship and the start of another can be dim for a few people, and it is genuinely basic for individuals to have some cover as they move starting with one accomplice then onto the next.

CHEATING:Is monogamy a chick thing? For a great many years in societies over the globe it has been, and the ever-show sexual twofold standard implies that despite everything it is today. A vital part with monogamy comes the outlets for men to cheat and escape with it (or possibly be excused if found), and ladies to be pilloried. Prostitution has constantly run as an inseparable unit with monogamy, and a “young men will be young men” mentality towards men’s accepted sexual that basically nobody anticipates that men will be sexually monogamous. Ladies, then again, are unquestionably anticipated that would be monogamous in relationship.

MONOGAMOUS IMPERFECTIONS: In addition to cheating, lots of other heinous things happen in some monogamous relationships. Because it is the cultural norm (at least in rhetoric), most relationships have at least a veneer of monogamy. This means that most of the awful things that happen in relationships happen in monogamous families – drug addiction and alcoholism, emotional and physical battering, incest, spousal rape, child molestation, and all manner of hideous events. Again, not every monogamous relationship is a cesspool of despair, but if there is an evil happening in a family, you can bet the monogamous folks have been there, done that. I am not saying that monogamy is evil, but rather I am saying that monogamy is not inherently good in all instances. Monogamy is as open to flaws as are other forms of relationship.

MONOGAMY ISN’T
Are a few people genuinely monogamous, in that both individuals from the couple just engage in sexual relations with each other for whatever is left of their lives? Yes, completely, and some of them are uncontrollably cheerful in fulfilling and cherishing connections. Others are abstinent in relational unions that have lost sexual start yet proceed for different reasons.
As a social establishment, however, monogamy is not what it used to be, with individuals arranging it and after that accepting many open doors to bypass it. Even though monogamy remains the predominant social perfect, it is unquestionably not the practice for huge areas of the populace.

✖ CHEATING ✖

Cheating states that a significant performs any type of intimate acts with another significant other ❕❕

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Cheating is also when a person is in a relationship and breakers the trust with the other person that they are in a relationship with this doesn’t matter if you have been together 1 month or 12 years.

Some forms of cheating include:

  • Kissing
  • Getting close with another person
  • Sexual intercourse (including vaginal, anal)

There is also emotional cheating this is when someone forms a close bond with someone of your gender and basically is forming a second relationship while still in your committed relationship.  This may or may not include physical cheating

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Cheating can mean many different things it could be:

  • cheating on a test,
  • cheating the law
  • And the main one is cheating on a relationship

Cheating in a relationship is when you start seeing someone else more regularly, and become more committed to this cheating relationship rather than tour other relationship, this relationship will then turn to a fully committed relationship and with the “I love you” but does it really have to be a fully committed relationship when the 3 words come out, and if there is any point staying in your last relationship that you have just started in

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There has to be a point  in time when in both relationship, you will need to choose what one you want to be with and how you may be making the other person may feel.

At this point, you are probably hearing voices in your head:

  • Well what if I chose the wrong person?
  • What if I just ended it with the person I really wanted?
  • What if I get stuck in this relationship?

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At some point, you have will need to make the jump and decide to go all in with one relationship or choose to end it all with both. Although you may feel letdown and feel horrible you will have to choose eventually of what you will want later in your life, but always remember that even though this relationship may have failed it doesn’t mean that there isn’t still someone out there for you.

All relationships are different

Each relationship is different from each other. Knowing how to get advice to other people when being in a similar situation. But knowing how serious it is you may not know.

But it’s important for yourself to know when your relationship is becoming unstable and when you should take action to protect yourself from anything serious

 

please remember that I’m not a professional and that I’m tell you from my experience and how different my past relationship and the difference between mine and their relationship

Knowing the differnce between an abusive relationship and a loving relationship!!!

A loving relationship is the most important when being in a relationship. But it’s also important that you know when your relationship is becoming abusive, it doesn’t have to be physical, it could be manipulative, emotional or even verbally any kind of abuse it abuse and it shouldn’t be tolerated.

I found that this video was a great help when dealing with my past abusive relationships.

also please remember that I’m not a professional I’m just telling from my experiences and I’ll also be putting links so everyone can be provided with more information